CHUSEOK (추석): A KOREAN THANKSGIVING

A lazy morning, frying meat in front of the tv.

This last week we had class for only two days because of the important Korean holiday Chuseok. Chuseok is often compared to American Thanksgiving since it involves getting together with family and eating a lot of food. However Chuseok is most traditionally about honoring one's ancestors so bowing and visiting graves is the basis of the holiday. My family is fairly traditional, though not especially religious so we had the ceremony at our house, offering food and bowing to Aboji's ancestors. Some families wear full hanbok for the occasion, but in our household only Aboji dressed up and the rest of us wore jeans. Traditionally everyone gathers at the parents house or, if parents are too far away, the first son's house for the holiday. The first son is in charge of the ceremony and the first son's wife is in charge of cooking for everyone. My co-teacher told me "Korean ladies do not prefer first sons." That's why, after sleeping in Wednesday, my host sisters and I spent the morning frying meat while watching comedy shows. The rest of Wednesday was pretty lazy as well, a relief not to think about lesson plans or travel plans for a few days. I've recently begun watching the drama "Secret Garden," by which I mean I started on Wednesday and I'm already on episode 7 (and these episodes are over an hour long). So I'm using my free time well?

Our Chuseok ceremony spread.

Thursday we woke up bright and early because relatives were arriving around 9:00. We set out all the food on special dishes before the screen and lit incense. When everyone had arrived the fathers and children stood in front of the food, took turns pouring or serving bits of food before the screen and did ceremonial bows. I took part in the bowing and even poured makgeoli (rice wine) for the ancestors. After we finished bowing the set-up was quickly dismantled and replaced with a brunch of bibimbap and all our ceremonial side dishes.

From left to right: host cousin, university host sister, Aboji, Oma's Mother, and Oma at our second lunch in Seonsan.

In the afternoon Aboji's family left and we went to Seonsan to see Oma's family. We stayed there for a long time enjoying more food and drinks. I spent a lot of my time playing with my little host cousins (ages unknown). They're adorable in a very loud sort of way and they don't mind my inability to communicate. We were still able to play badminton and hide and go seek.

Some intense badminton with the little host cousins. But actually the younger one is better than me.

Host cousin climbing the neighbors windows. He could get all the way to the top. Thankfully I do know how to say "Don't!" in Korean.

Late afternoon, pumping up the bike tires.

Today we woke up at 7am to have breakfast in Seonsan and visit Oma's family graves. After coffee and a lot of shuffling to get everyone together we drove to Seonsan and met Harmoeni at her house where we all ate cup ramen for breakfast. (Don't get me wrong, Harmoeni offered bibimbap, but someone mentioned cup ramen and then we all wanted it!)

Just outside Seonsan, walking to visit graves.

Afterwards we piled into the car again and drove to a farming area near Seonsan. There was some confusion with directions and when we walked into a courtyard with a dog growling at us I thought maybe we were asking for help. Instead it turned out we had arrived at Harmoeni's sister's house. From there we all walked up the mountainside to the family graves, Aboji carrying our mat and supply of soju. It was a gorgeous area full of rice paddies, peppers, sweet potatoes, persimmon trees, apple orchards and wild plums. I couldn't stop breathing in the clean, damp-earth smell. I also couldn't stop wondering if Korea has ticks or not.

My two host sisters and Oma.

Aboji escorting the grandmas.

On the way down we stopped to see Harmoeni's sister's cows. My middle school host sister handing out the hay.

Sun-soaked persimmons.

Bright orange fruits were smashed all along the road up and down the mountain. I love their color and the big drooping leaves of the trees, also starting to tinge orange. I've never seen persimmon trees before, but still it reminded me of time spent outdoors in Minnesota, or visiting the deep gorges of upstate New York.

Bowing to my host family's ancestors I had a sense of inclusion, that my Korean family is my family, their ancestors mine as well. Yet I also had a sense of displacement to be so far from my own ancestors. I wondered if, by bowing now in Korea, I could bow to my grandparents and my grandparent's grandparents. It's family lore that my great-great grandma Josephine, for whom I was named, saw Lincoln's funeral train while she was traveling to Minnesota in a covered wagon. Being here in Korea I can appreciate how much physical distance separates me from that history and how much, though I might take it for granted that history matters. In Korea family matters. It matters a lot, even in distance and even in death. It reminded me that going home isn't about homesickness, or about weakness. In America there's a certain stigma behind people 'living at home' past a certain age and few extended families live near each other anymore. Our work style requires us to be mobile, to leave family behind in preference to a job.

I have been lucky enough to do a fair amount of traveling myself, here in Korea and elsewhere. For me, traveling is about discovering who I am separated from familiarity and about who I can be when painted across a different landscape. To travel is both difficult and fascinating, but I would hate to forget, sometimes worry I might lose, the knowledge that there is a particular difficulty and fascination that belongs to the journey home as well. So thank you Chuseok, for reminding me.